Does first love really never die? Or, can you find the love that you once had that was lost?

There is a favorite saying that goes:

“If you love someone, let them go. If they return to you, it was meant to be. If they don’t, there love was never yours to begin with…”

In other words, if you love someone set her free. Give her the freedom she wants. Avoid being the controlling type. Let her manage her own life. That is how you want your life too, right? All of us need our own space and time for ourselves. Same thing with relationships. The secret to a long lasting relationship is keeping the friendship alive.

Love is a feeling that needs care and devotion. You need to devote time and effort. You need to keep the love alive. Keep the line of communication open. Talk less and listen more. When your wife or partner talks, she expects you to listen. Isn’t it that when you talk , you want the other person to listen to you too? Let the person with the issue at hand talk her heart out while you listen. Once she’s done, then you can start talking. Isn’t it good to see the person you care and love relieved of her tensions when you let her talk while you listen?

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Tags: dating, having an affair, love, marriage, relationships

Love. It is the most beautiful word in the dictionary. Everyone wants it and even chases it. Love is the most beautiful feeling one can have. It fills your life with everything even when you have nothing. But, what if the love you have turns into a nightmare?

Here is a story of a straight woman who was deeply in love with her long-time lesbian partner, but was betrayed and was devastated. They’ve been together for three years living the life every lesbian couple could imagine.

The betrayal

She trusted her lesbian partner. She caters to her needs and all that goes with the role of a housewife. She thinks that everything in their lesbian relationship was okay and that they will never separate ways. They promised to be together for the rest of their lives.

It turns out that her lesbian partner has a lesbian affair with another woman. She was very devastated. She never expected her lesbian partner to betray her after all that she did for her. The lesbian partner she thinks she will have for the rest of her life is having a lesbian affair with another woman.

Dear Jandi,

Breaking up with someone you love is the most painful and stressful thing that you can feel specially if your partner betrayed you. The person you thought you could trust and count on is no longer the person you believed them to be.

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Tags: Lesbian Affair, lesbian couple, lesbian partner, Lesbian Relationship, partner betrayal

Are you a straight woman falling in love with a gay woman or lesbian?

A Straight Woman Will Never Fall in Love with Another Woman

Many would argue that it is highly impossible for a straight woman to fall in love with another woman. And, that there could be no way a straight woman could fall in love with a lesbian or gay woman. However the reality is, it does happen. Perhaps the straight woman finds the lesbian or gay woman physically attractive and kind. Qualities of a person  that most women are looking for.

Straight women are just humans. They can be physically attracted to persons of the same sex. It can happen to anyone. You can be a straight man who falls in love with another man or a straight woman who falls in love with another woman. Or, you could have been in love with men your whole life and then suddenly finds yourself in love with another woman. You may have envied this woman before because she is more attractive and then finds yourself in a situation where you feel something different towards her.

It Can Happen and It Is Happening

Many women have had experiences falling in love with men their whole lives and then suddenly find themselves attracted towards persons of the same sex. They fall in love with men their whole lives but caught up in a situation where their feelings changed. This time the feeling is towards women and not with men.

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Are you a lesbian?

If you are, are you the type of lesbian who is outgoing? Or someone who likes to be alone.

If you are outgoing then perhaps you have a bunch of loyal friends around you who can help you whenever help is needed. But, what if you happen to be an introvert type of lesbian who likes to be alone? When help is needed, no one is there to turn to.

That’s why a support group is important.

If you are a lesbian, being alone in your inner struggle to find peace for who you are can give your life some misery.

Here are the main reasons why your lesbian life can be miserable:

1. You want to come out as a lesbian, but is afraid to do so for fear of being rejected by family and friends.

2. You want to talk to someone who will understand you, but nobody is there to listen to you.

3. You want to get advise and suggestions on how to court the girl of your dreams, but there is nobody who can help you out.

4. You want to buy stuff that is useful to you, but you are afraid to do so because your family or friends may not like it.

5. And the things you like doing you cannot do because you are afraid of being caught as a lesbian.

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Tags: lesbian, lesbian support group

Are you dating someone way over your age? Or, are you dating someone so much younger than you are.

If you are then take a deep breath and think before you fall into a trap.

Most people who have a huge age gap, say 10 – 20 years age gap, are most likely to fail in the relationship.

Here are a few of the reasons why:

1. You will not have the same likes. People older have their own thing so with younger ones too. The older one likes the older ways and vice versa.

2. You will not have the same wants. For sure, because of your age gap, your wants will be very different.

3. You will not have the same sense of purpose in life. Older people tend to be more focused in life than younger ones with some exceptions.

4. You will not have the same wave length in any discussion. Older people are more serious in discussions than younger ones.

5. You will not have the same energy in anything you do. As people age, energy fades.

6. Jealousy will always ensue. Older people are the ones that usually gets jealous in the relationship.

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Tags: age difference, age gap, relationship problem

The same-sex marriage legislation in Maryland will face a rematch early next year or sometime in January 2012. With this in mind, supporters of the same-sex marriage in Maryland launched a web video campaign to gain support from its viewers.

The web video campaign is a somewhat similar effort that transpired in New York where well known celebrities all stepped forward in making attention grabbing appearances in a long running ad campaign. In June 2011, lawmakers in New York voted to legalize same-sex marriage making New York the largest state where gay and lesbian couples will be able to wed. New York’s marriage bill was approved 33 to 29.

On the other hand, the same-sex marriage bill in Maryland was killed by the Maryland General Assembly in March 2011 when leaders of the House was faced with uncertainty as to whether they had enough support to pass a final vote. The recent web video campaign is set to garner more support. The first web video campaign features no less than the Maryland chief executive Gov. Martin O’Malley.

Organizers of the same-sex web video campaign in Maryland vowed to produce a steady stream of supporters from now and until the Maryland General Assembly votes on the issue again in 2012.

Tags: Maryland same-sex marriage bill, same sex marriage legislation