Sexuality is a complex aspect of our personality and self. It is most defined by our sexual thoughts, desires and longings, erotic fantasies, turn-ons and experiences in life. It is the force that empowers us to express and display strong, emotional feelings for another person. One might be attracted to another person, but that ‘thing’ that made her attract to another may not always be sexual. Sometimes, we find people attractive because of their sense of humor, personality, likeability, compatibility, or intelligence.

So, can you hide your sexuality? It is very difficult to hide your sexuality if you are a lesbian. It’s even more difficult if you have been raised in a strict or religious family.

With the best intention of being true to ourselves, there are occasions when pressures from relatives and friends might cause you to live life as a straight person even when you know, deep down, you are gay.

Often, counselling can be of benefit, but it won’t really help if you know that you are not who you pretend to be. Your sexuality will always reveal the truth in yourself because it is part of your physical, emotional, intellectual, and social self. It affects how you think of yourself and how you relate to others, as well as how they relate to you, and it is a part of you throughout your entire life.

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As humans, lesbians do fall in love easily. Although they have different tastes and standards, lesbians by all means are just like men. They are into women who are physically attractive.

A lesbian who finds her best friend attractive will have a hard time dealing with her feelings. She will then have to choose between her feelings and that of keeping the friendship.

Here are some tips that maybe of help when faced with a situation like this:

1. Communicate. Talk with your best friend and tell her how you feel. Explain to her that you’ve been this way all along and that you just kept the feelings to yourself for fear of losing the friendship. If she understands you, great!

2. Avoid her. If you are too shy to communicate then try to avoid her for the time being until such time that you’re ready to talk. By then, you may be sure of your feelings. Chances are she may approach you and ask what is going on. Be prepared to tell her how you feel. Explain that you don’t expect yourself to feel that way and that you are sorry.

Either way, you have to make a decision for yourself and for the sake of your friendship. When I explained to my best friend what I feel towards her, she told me that we can still be the best of friends despite my sexual preference.

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There are lesbians who have had experience having a relationship with a married woman. While this may not sound right anymore, there are those who are willing to fight for their feelings. They  will try to hide the relationship or pretend to be just friends.

So, why are these married women attracted to lesbians anyway? It can come to only one thing. Only a woman knows what a woman wants.

Think that this kind of relationship will last? You are wrong. Majority of lesbian relationships with married women are short lived. Hardly can you find a lesbian relationship with a married woman survive a long way. If there is, then it’s one in a million.

The reason? First and foremost is that, if given a choice, the married woman will definitely choose family before lesbian affair. She will, of course, protect her integrity first and that of her family, especially if there are children involved. It is all the more true if the community is small and everybody knows everybody. News of the affair can spread so easily and end up the affair so quickly. Read more »

Keeping a long-distance relationship across the miles is no easy task. It requires hard work, perseverance and patience. Those of us who have been there can all attest that it is very hard.

There are different kinds of long-distance relationships, but the more daunting one is a long distance relationship between lesbians.

A lesbian who is involved in a long-distance relationship should prepare herself in making the relationship work. While it is hard even if both are residing in the same country and one can easily visit the other, it is even harder for couples who are separated not just by distance but by immigration issues as well. The complexity of getting a partner to join the other is sometimes the reason of a relationship breakdown.

Here are some tips to keep the relationship survive and thrive:

1. Defining your terms. One can ease a lot of discomfort and confusion by defining the expectations in advance. Unless you are comfortable with a casual, non-exclusive relationship, one should be prepared to move and join the other. Physical proximity makes a lot of difference in making a relationship grow.

2. Communication. Talk more often on the phone. If the phone bill is rising, send an email or use the free services of Skype. Both of you can talk long hours without worrying about the bill. And there are more free services out there that you can tap. You just need to find a way to limit your cost. Use the phone only when necessary. It’s more exciting also to send email once in a while. Send an e-card or leave a voice message.
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Everybody wants to have a steady and stable relationship. Who would not want to be happy and be with the one they love? You both worked so hard to keep the relationship going, yet you both feel that something isn’t just right. Love fades away and misunderstandings come in.

They say money can’t buy happiness. You may have everything in life, but there will always be a feeling of emptiness within you when you don’t have anybody to share it with. While this may not be true for some, this holds true for others.

It doesn’t matter who leaves who. Whether you left your partner or she’s the one who left you, the pain is hard to bare. Moving on is like climbing the highest peak of a mountain. Questions will come to mind of whether or not you will be able to survive.  Chances are very slim if the memories kept coming back. Frustration, loneliness and emptiness will haunt you every minute of the day.

Here are some tips on how you can easily transition yourself after a hard break-up:
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Happiness is a decision. You can be happy right now and for every moment to come for the rest of your life. It all depends on you. Being happy is the most powerful skill you can learn. But, can you be a lesbian and still be happy?

A lesbian can be happy. It all depends on how she’s taking care of things. She can be happy with family and friends or she can be happy with the one she loves. It’s all a matter of decision making.

Deciding between family and love is a very tough decision. Making a decision, however, is the only way to happiness.

A lesbian coming from a family who is not open to the lesbian way of life will have a very tough time. Will she choose love of family or love for someone else?
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