Getting over a lesbian relationship is a painful process. Anyone who has gone through an unsuccessful lesbian relationship can attest to the fact that the ordeal can be devastating.

But — life has to go on and you have to move on!

Here are tips to help you through if you are trying to pick yourself up from a broken lesbian relationship:

1. Get up and take a hot shower. It is refreshing and you get to think things through while you make bubbles in the tub.

2. Exercise. Get that blood circulation great as it used to be. It helps diminish if not eradicate stress, depression or boredom.

3. Talk to friends. Sometimes sharing can ease the pain. A word of caution, however. Talk only to someone you can trust if you don’t want to spill the beans. Are you out? Then it’s fine.

4. Open your window. Let the sunshine in. It helps draw positive energy.

5. Go places. If you can afford, take a long vacation. Go places you’ve always imagined visiting.

6. Volunteer. Instead of making your life miserable in your room, why not volunteer your time to something that helps the community you are in? Not only will it boost your network of friends but, as always, you are doing something that money can’t buy. A different kind of happiness when you do something good for others.

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Tags: Lesbian Relationship

Should a husband leave his wife to ease his pain and jealousy over wife’s lesbian affair? Or should he support her all the way on whatever makes her happy, thereby, bear all the pain and jealousy?

This is a letter from husband who endured lots of pain and jealousy because of wife’s lesbian affair.

Wife Has a Lesbian Affair

Pardon me as a man for reading and joining in. My wife is in love with a lesbian. She is still in love with me too. There are many complexities which I don’t need to go into here, but I do want to say that we have all been making it work for more than six years now. This dyke was attracted to my wife and became her best friend for about a year before letting her know about her attraction. When she did begin to try to draw her to her sexually, she talked with me about it at key points. They didn’t sleep together or even kiss before we all agreed it was all right. I was willing for my wife to have a woman lover but I had no idea how far they would go. Everything said here about how only a woman can give a woman what she needs, and about the feeling of intensity and addiction, rings true to their experience. Yes I have struggled with lots of pain and jealousy. But I can see my wife’s happiness and knowing that she still loves and wants me makes such a difference. All the relationships between us have grown close and intimate over time. If this dyke hadn’t gone with her heart feelings none of this would have happened. On balance I am glad she was not prudent or careful.

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Tags: Lesbian Affair, married woman with lesbian affair

Women! Are we all slightly lesbians?

This was the question raised by a man who thinks that women, in general, who seem attracted to other women usually have sexual feelings towards them or are slightly lesbians. Perhaps this guy has a dating problem or problem going after the woman he is interested in. It could also be that the woman he is interested in may not be interested in him but, instead, interested in another woman — a scenario that can be a bit confusing to the guy. But, how do you exactly gauge a woman as to whether or not she is a lesbian? Or slightly lesbian?

The answer depends largely on the woman’s perspective. From a straight woman’s perspective, she can definitely say that she does not feel any sexual feelings towards other women at all. Or she can openly say, “the woman” is “very attractive” but it doesn’t mean she is a lesbian. To a straight woman, showing signs of attraction to another woman is simply noticing another woman’s traits which she doesn’t have that she wants for herself to catch a man. It can also be that she is merely wanting to be like the woman she admired as “very attractive,” but not necessarily liking her. These women could just be wishing that, what beautiful things they see in other women, they could somehow have for themselves.

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