Can You Hide Your Sexuality?
Sexuality is a complex aspect of our personality and self. It is most defined by our sexual thoughts, desires and longings, erotic fantasies, turn-ons and experiences in life. It is the force that empowers us to express and display strong, emotional feelings for another person. One might be attracted to another person, but that ‘thing’ that made her attract to another may not always be sexual. Sometimes, we find people attractive because of their sense of humor, personality, likeability, compatibility, or intelligence.
So, can you hide your sexuality? It is very difficult to hide your sexuality if you are a lesbian. It’s even more difficult if you have been raised in a strict or religious family.
With the best intention of being true to ourselves, there are occasions when pressures from relatives and friends might cause you to live life as a straight person even when you know, deep down, you are gay.
Often, counselling can be of benefit, but it won’t really help if you know that you are not who you pretend to be. Your sexuality will always reveal the truth in yourself because it is part of your physical, emotional, intellectual, and social self. It affects how you think of yourself and how you relate to others, as well as how they relate to you, and it is a part of you throughout your entire life.
Unsuccessful. I know I am a lesbian. Since I was little, but I didn’t know what it is, still I am in high school. My life is getting harder each day. I got a job at a local supermarket, and for the first time I am attracted to a co-worker whose age is 10 years older than me. It was fine by me because she was lovely and nice to me. However it doesn’t work out ‘coz she was straight and I do not want to change who she is. I have crushes on other women after that but I didn’t have the guts to ask them out. I flirt with them. But I can’t commit in a relationship. I never try to start a relationship because after a few months or weeks of flirting, I found they are not my type. I am not sure why. But I have lost interest in them. Until now I didn’t come out. I really want to know am I really a lesbian? If yes, how come every time I get to know the person, I lost interest in them and just want to be friend?
I do find guys are hot… and I wouldn’t refuse to date them..
What’s wrong with me ?
@Lila – Thanks for sharing your story. There is nothing wrong with you. You are just human. As a human being, we all experience feelings that are very confusing to us. Be that as it may, you may be a lesbian because you are attracted to the same sex. However, it is not only the attraction that counts to consider you a lesbian. We can be attracted to someone, but not necessarily wanting them to be part of our lives. In other words, what you feel towards the other person must not merely be an attraction but leaning towards a more deeper relationship with the other person. Some women who are confused and want to understand themselves better would try to go on a date with a guy. That way they will see and feel the difference. Ask yourself…what do I want? If you feel you want to be with a woman more than you want to be with a man then you may be a lesbian.