A recent study released by the American Psychological Association showed that gay to straight program doesn’t work. It’s kind of frustrating to the people who are behind the program because the study, which is aimed for a good cause, ended with a negative result.

Real lesbians are born lesbians

Real lesbians, meaning those who are born lesbians and not just influenced by peer groups, can attest to the fact that there is no medication or special therapy which can make a difference in their sexual orientation. Lesbians and gays will always be what they are regardless of religious backgrounds, medication or therapy programs.

Emotional struggle to effect change

It’s an emotional struggle to effect change in once life. So much so for a lesbian. A lesbian who tries to change herself from lesbian to straight will be faced with a lot of emotional issues. She will be battling against herself in favor of what she believe is the right thing to do. She will experience an infighting between herself and her feelings which can result in depression and, sometimes, suicidal thoughts.

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Do you feel trapped in your own feelings? If your attraction to persons of the same sex is strong and you cannot accept the fact that you feel that way towards them, do some emotional exercise.

There are six basic universal emotions that you can try on. These basic emotions are joy, anger, disgust, fear, sadness and surprise. For example, a lesbian who cannot accept what she feels toward a friend or a lesbian who doesn’t know how to express her feelings towards a person of the same sex may want to exercise the above emotions.

A friend confided her story that she was head over heals towards her childhood friend. There were many sleepless nights just thinking about her and numerous phone calls just to hear her voice. It was a secret feeling that surprised her. She felt sad about it, was disgusted about her feelings for fear of being dumped and ridiculed. In the end, realizing that she cannot afford to loose a friend, she works toward acceptance which, in the end, brings her joy. Accepting herself for who she is and that there are things in life that she cannot have  made her more joyful and happy. As a result, she felt she has accomplished something big for herself.

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Lesbians are normal human beings.

In an article entitled, “Sexual Functions in Lesbians and Lesbian Relationships”, published by the Institute for Personal Growth, the American Psychiatric Association officially de-classified homosexuality as a mental illness and most healthcare professional have gradually accepted the view that being lesbian is a sexual variation rather than a disease.

They are normal except that they have unique needs and concerns and people should try to understand that and be open to their unique identities.

The struggle of lesbians for acceptance come in so many ways. An article entitled, “Lesbians and Gays are not abnormal“, it mentioned of Indian lesbians and gays continued fight for their rights for over 15 years. They petitioned for the repeal of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code.

Lesbians, no matter how they feel towards people of the same sex, are normal. They are just who they are. No matter what people say, lesbians are still God’s creation just like everybody else. People should learn to provide space for every human being to live and love with freedom, dignity and respect irrespective of sexual orientation.

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Sexuality is a complex aspect of our personality and self. It is most defined by our sexual thoughts, desires and longings, erotic fantasies, turn-ons and experiences in life. It is the force that empowers us to express and display strong, emotional feelings for another person. One might be attracted to another person, but that ‘thing’ that made her attract to another may not always be sexual. Sometimes, we find people attractive because of their sense of humor, personality, likeability, compatibility, or intelligence.

So, can you hide your sexuality? It is very difficult to hide your sexuality if you are a lesbian. It’s even more difficult if you have been raised in a strict or religious family.

With the best intention of being true to ourselves, there are occasions when pressures from relatives and friends might cause you to live life as a straight person even when you know, deep down, you are gay.

Often, counselling can be of benefit, but it won’t really help if you know that you are not who you pretend to be. Your sexuality will always reveal the truth in yourself because it is part of your physical, emotional, intellectual, and social self. It affects how you think of yourself and how you relate to others, as well as how they relate to you, and it is a part of you throughout your entire life.

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We are all born with both masculine and feminine behavior. Check your finger length. Finger length is the only physical trait at birth that’s different in males and females, besides genetalia. While still in the womb, the growth of our finger digits is affected by the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen. These hormones also have an effect on our brains.

Males tend to have a ring finger that is longer than their index finger (average: 1 to 0.96 ratio), while females typically have index and ring fingers of the same length.  According to John Manning, a biologist who first identified the significance of ‘finger digit ratios’, “females with masculine digit ratios have more masculine behaviors and males with a typically female ratio exhibit more typically feminine behaviors.” Girls with the male-type finger lengths tend to be more hyperactive. Lesbians are more likely to have this finger ratio.

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