If you are, are you the type of lesbian who is outgoing? Or someone who likes to be alone.

If you are outgoing then perhaps you have a bunch of loyal friends around you who can help you whenever help is needed. But, what if you happen to be an introvert type of lesbian who likes to be alone? When help is needed, no one is there to turn to.

That’s why a support group is important.

If you are a lesbian, being alone in your inner struggle to find peace for who you are can give your life some misery.

Here are the main reasons why your lesbian life can be miserable:

1. You want to come out as a lesbian, but is afraid to do so for fear of being rejected by family and friends.

2. You want to talk to someone who will understand you, but nobody is there to listen to you.

3. You want to get advise and suggestions on how to court the girl of your dreams, but there is nobody who can help you out.

4. You want to buy stuff that is useful to you, but you are afraid to do so because your family or friends may not like it.

5. And the things you like doing you cannot do because you are afraid of being caught as a lesbian.

The above are just some of the frustrating  instances in the life of lesbian without any lesbian support group. While some lesbians are tough and can live without it, others cannot.

Do yourself a big favor! If you are one of those that cannot do without, here are the things that you can do to have a life as a lesbian:

1. Seek out help from like-minded friends. If you are a lesbian who happens to have gay and lesbian friends, seek help from them. For sure, they will understand where you are coming from.

2. There are people who are gay/lesbian friendly. Talk to them if you find people who are gay friendly among your circle of friends.

3. There are many lesbian support groups you can seek help from. In the United States, lesbian support groups are present in almost every state around the country.

If all of the above sounds far reaching to you then there is no way for you to live life happily as a lesbian, but to go after what you think and feel is best for you.

There are many lesbians out whose hearts are breaking because they are afraid of coming out in the open and have no way of sharing their sufferings. If they do share, people don’t seem to care or understand what they’ve been going through. The only way to move on and be happy with life is to be who you are. In other words, acceptance is the key to a lesbian’s life happiness.

What if your family will disown you?
What if you will be fired from work if you come out of the closet?
What if…

These are examples of situations that could happen when you come out in the open. But again coming out depends on ones personal circumstance.

Coming out as a lesbian may not be hard for one whose family is very accepting and understanding or to a lesbian whose personal demeanor seems so obvious that it does not require telling anyone to know what she is. Or one of the family member is gay and is already out.

Be that as it may, coming out is what every lesbian aspire for as coming out gives us freedom and real happiness to be who we are. It gives us inner peace and a sense of direction.

So, what is your coming out story? Share it to get some kind of emotional relief.

She’s been with the same woman for 17 long years. Let’s hide their names as Jasper and Amber.

Jasper is married to a man and had a son. Amber, on the other hand, is also married to a man and was blessed with two sons and a daughter. Both had been unhappy with their marriages. Jasper admits she started to like women way before she married her husband. Was she trying to hide her lesbianism? Jasper said she only wanted to live a normal life the main reason why she decides to marry her husband. On the other hand, Amber married her husband who is an overseas contract worker. He is always out of the country for overseas work and would only come home once a year or once every two years. She is straight who happens to fall in love with her lesbian friend.

It all started with the game of mahjong, a game of Chinese origin usually played by four persons with tiles resembling dominoes and bearing various designs, which are drawn and discarded until one player wins with a hand of four combination of three tiles each and a pair of matching tiles. A common friend normally invites the two to play with a group of women. To make the story short, things between the two started to develop to the surprise of everyone.

Amber explains that there is something she cannot explain that she really likes about Jasper. Jasper, on the other hand, states that she too felt the same way about Amber.

It was a shared love that they cannot explain. Both admitted that during the 17 years that they’ve been together there were ups and downs in the relationship, but one thing, they said, that strongly binds them together is their true and unconditional love for each other.

It was that kind of love that both Jasper and Amber proudly said that made their lesbian relationship last for 17 long years. Asked as to what kind of love they felt for each other, both shared that it is that kind of love that is unconditional where you want only the best thing to happen for your partner. It’s true love where two hearts beat as one.

Jasper shared that the deepest secret to their lesbian relationship is when every time they are faced with a problem, they let their love for each other come in. She indicated that when there is love there is no problem or misunderstanding you cannot solve.

Indeed it is the most common secret among relationships that last very long. It is that kind of love that is hard to explain that will dictate oneself to give in to the other person we truly love and care about. If love is always present in the lesbian relationship then there is no reason why it cannot last long.

Jasper and Amber were both happy to share their true love for each other and they still do not have plans of letting each other go. Both are now in their early 50′s and happily live together as one under one roof.

In an article entitled, “Sexual Functions in Lesbians and Lesbian Relationships”, published by the Institute for Personal Growth, the American Psychiatric Association officially de-classified homosexuality as a mental illness and most healthcare professional have gradually accepted the view that being lesbian is a sexual variation rather than a disease.

They are normal except that they have unique needs and concerns and people should try to understand that and be open to their unique identities.

The struggle of lesbians for acceptance come in so many ways. An article entitled, “Lesbians and Gays are not abnormal“, it mentioned of Indian lesbians and gays continued fight for their rights for over 15 years. They petitioned for the repeal of Section 377 of the Indian Penal Code.

Lesbians, no matter how they feel towards people of the same sex, are normal. They are just who they are. No matter what people say, lesbians are still God’s creation just like everybody else. People should learn to provide space for every human being to live and love with freedom, dignity and respect irrespective of sexual orientation.

I took the test not once but twice and it gave me the same answer. Well, it says I’m single because ” I believe that any species that can’t work a toilet seat is inferior”.  It’s not the result that I expect to get but that’s what it is after the second round.

For those of you who have partners, you can still try it out and probably it will give you an answer why you’ve been single years before. Try it out and share your results in the comments area.

It’s another interesting coming out story from a very well known celebrity.