A Perfect Lesbian Relationship

Isn’t it nice to be in a lesbian relationship where there is always love and romance? Just the thought of it can even make you happy. This is the kind of relationship every lesbian wants. But, what happens when misunderstanding comes in?

Misunderstandings Come In Many Ways

There are many things that can trigger misunderstandings in a lesbian relationship. It can even ignite a heated debate. And, sometimes, it can end up in separation.

Here are a few:

• Money. The most common issue that could lead to misunderstanding in any kind of relationship is money. Money is indeed the root of all evil. It can spoil a good lesbian relationship that sometimes can even lead to separation. When money is tight and the bills are high, don’t give up on each other. Find ways to build additional income. Isn’t it that for richer or for poorer, love is all that matters?

• Kids. It is a fact that kids give life and color in any kind of relationship. It makes a house really a home. Without kids, life can be so boring in a couple’s life. There should be a meeting of the minds early on in the relationship as to whether to have kids in the relationship or not. After all, why settle for a lesbian relationship when your goal is to have a dozen kids?

• Household chores. A house in disarray can trigger a heated argument if household chores are not scheduled accordingly. If both are working, a schedule should be made regarding house cleaning. You can alternate days or weeks depending on your schedules or how often you want your house cleaned.

• Jealousy. While it feels good when your partner gets jealous of someone, it is something that you should care about when it gets overboard.The conversation should end when there is no reason to get jealous.

With misunderstandings come heartaches. You get hurt as your partner plays dumb in everything you say and do. Then come the exchange of heated and hurting words, a hostile argument and anything that could come in between. Any amount of heartache could bring frustrations, disappointments and even regrets.

So, how do you handle a situation when there is no room to spare.

Keep Your Cool

It may perhaps be hard to calm down when you are so mad and angry at the person you love and care about. Just thinking about cooling down your head is even hard enough.

Here are a few tips:

• Look back at where you all started. Remember the good memories. When love comes in, everything will come into place.
• Take a deep breath and walk away from the heated argument. Walking away does not mean you walk away from the relationship. It means walking away from the heated debate. By walking away from it you get rid of the tendency to fight back. Can you imagine? You are doing yourself a good favor and that of your partner. Later in the day, everything will be okay.
• Keep quiet and don’t argue. When you keep your mouth shut it is more likely that your partner will also stop.

Life can be so messy sometimes. It all depends on how we handle the situation. When you really love the person let love find its way and everything will be okay. There is no perfect relationship anyway and we all have our own faults and failures.

Keep the love alive — that’s the most important.

One question that could pop up in one’s mind would be — why on earth are these women more interested in having a relationship with a lesbian rather than with a man?

You would never believe what these women would say. And, these are women who are currently in a lesbian relationship.

The reasons they fall in love with these lesbians?

• Lesbians are soft-kissers.
• Lesbians body odor are way different than men. They smell sweet.
• Lesbians are more tender.
• Lesbians are more caring to a woman’s needs. Emotionally? 100%.
• Lesbians know exactly what a woman wants.
• Lesbians are more compassionate.
• Lesbians are more loving.
• Lesbians have lots of patience.
• Lesbians are more understanding.
• Lesbians are more attendant to a woman’s needs.

In other words, these women feel more comfortable being with their lesbian lovers. A feeling most women cannot even understand.

To women out there, please share your thoughts. This is not to say that women should go into a lesbian relationship. This is just to share bits and pieces of lesbian information.

Can you spot the difference?

Unless you have experienced a lesbian relationship with these two types of women, you can never tell if loving one can be better off than the other.

Lesbian Relationship With a Gay Woman

Entering into a lesbian relationship with a woman who is known to be gay can give you a peace of mind. Why? Consider the following points:

• She is gay. Once gay will always be gay. In other words, there is an assurance that she will not be into guys. And if this is something that worries you a lot then you are pretty safe.
• She is more focused on the relationship. Gay women are known to be more focused on building a good lesbian relationship rather than wait and stick around for a while.
• She knows where you are coming from. A gay woman can relate to your feelings. She can easily understand you from within. Isn’t it not that you both feel the same in the first place?

Lesbian Relationship with a Straight Woman

If you experienced having a relationship with a straight woman chances are you have gone through some frustrations and discouraging moments in your lesbian life. And the reason is plain and simple:

• She is straight. As such, there will come a point in her life that she will crave the presence of a guy. You are lucky if that doesn’t play out in her mind. Can you make her feel guilty?
• She may want to have kids of her own. You are very lucky if she has already kids of her own, but chances are if she has none she will definitely want one. The absence of kids sometimes creates a void in a lesbian relationship.

Lesbian Attraction

While it is more advantageous to be with a gay woman rather than with a straight woman, majority of lesbians prefer to have a straight woman in their lives. The reason behind can be gleaned from the fact that:

• You can easily hide a lesbian relationship if you are still not out of the closet.
• Having a relationship with a straight woman can boost one’s ego, especially to the butch type of lesbians.
• Lesbians are more attracted to straight women.

Be that as it may, the success of a relationship, or its failure, is not measured by who you are with or what she is, it is what is in your heart. If you are willing to pour your heart out to the person you care about then all things can be made possible.

For example, a woman who fell in love with a lesbian because she made her feel she had “finally come home” to a safe and secure place can experience the most painful aspect of her jealousy as “feeling abandoned and all alone” if something goes wrong with their lesbian relationship.

Jealousy cannot be avoided. It can even sometimes blind you. It can distract you so much so that it can even affect your ability to see clearly what’s right from wrong.

While some tend to shy away from people who are the jealous type, some prefer to have them because it proves that true love exists in the relationship.

If you are tormented when your lesbian partner looks at someone else or if your imagination torture you with romantic scenarios that don’t include you, you may already be experiencing jealousy. Jealousy is a real life issue that plagues many relationships including lesbian relationships.

If your jealousy is causing you to feel scared and afraid that your lesbian partner will leave you for someone else and you will be left alone, talk it out with your partner before it gets worse. However, if your jealousy is something that is  out-of-control and constant questions are bombarded to your lesbian partner, questions like — where have you been, who you’ve been with and what you were doing, these can sometimes irritate her that can lead to mistrust and misunderstanding in your lesbian relationship.

When there is love, there is jealousy. Who doesn’t? The reality is you will get tormented when your lesbian partner looks at someone else.

If you are in a lesbian relationship right now, have you ever thought about it? If your current lesbian relationship is right for you? This question would surely come up in one’s lesbian mind as you go through the process of building a lesbian relationship with your girlfriend or lesbian partner.

But, how do you exactly know if a lesbian relationship is right for you? No one will ever know unless you are a lesbian or a straight woman who have had a lesbian affair or in a current lesbian relationship. Because in the eyes of people, a lesbian relationship is completely wrong.

So, is your current lesbian relationship right for you?

A lesbian relationship may only be right when both of you are ready.  Entering into a lesbian relationship is no joke. It is no different than any other kind of  relationship. It is important that both parties are ready to make the lesbian relationship work.

Being ready means:

1. You are 100% sure of your sexuality. In other words, you know in your heart that you only like women and not men. It is safer to gauge your sexuality first before plunging oneself into a lesbian relationship as it is better to be certain than feel sorry.  What type of lesbian are you?

2. Not hiding your relationship to your family and friends. It means accepting the lesbian relationship openly without any reservation.

3. Willingness to give and take. Such that if both parties are miles and miles apart, one must be willing to relocate to be with the other person without any condition.

4. Emotional stability. There is no point in keeping up a lesbian relationship with your lesbian partner if you are emotionally unstable. If you are still flirting around with other girls or having another affair, these are signs of emotional instability. By being emotionally unstable you will end up hurting your lesbian partner’s feelings. Entering into a relationship with someone you say you love requires commitment.

5. Financially stable. The success of a lesbian relationship lies in the hands of the partners involved. While being emotionally stable is very important in order for a lesbian relationship to work out it is likewise important that both parties are financially capable and able of supporting each other.

A lesbian relationship will always be right in the eyes of two women who are deeply in love with each other and who are committed and willing to share and spend the rest of their lesbian lives together. And no matter how other people will look at it, they will always think their lesbian relationship is right. For to them, the love they shared will never be wrong but will always be right.

For who are we to judge when what matters most is how two people share true and everlasting love?

Got an email from one of our avid readers asking for some lesbian relationship advice. Following her email is another email which she received from her last girlfriend who dumped her at a time when she needed her the most. Our site visitor has now moved on with her life but wanted to make sure if she is making the right decision — that of not taking her girlfriend back.  Did she make the right decision? She feels however that her girlfriend deserves a second chance.

Email from our site visitor

Please help! My girlfriend of over two years wants to have me back. She dumped me early this year after I lost my job. It was very painful for me. It was at that time when I needed her the most, at least for emotional support. I now have moved on with my life.  Is it right to take her back after what she did to me? How do I let go of someone I still care?

A copy of the email from our site visitor’s girlfriend

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