Why lesbians fall in love with women rather than with men?
Are you a lesbian? Do you know the reason why you prefer to be romantically linked with a woman rather than with a man? As a lesbian, do you have the right to love a woman? If you know and even if you don’t know, just share your thoughts so every lesbian can learn from each other.
Lesbians in General
Generally, lesbians prefer to be romantically linked with a woman rather than with a man. Lesbians will most likely envy men rather than being romantically linked with them.
The Exception
Unless the lesbian is a bi-sexual woman, she may not want to be with a man. She may marry a man to try to live a normal life, but chances are she will most likely go back to her normal ways, that of being a lesbian.
Being a lesbian is confusing in itself
Being a lesbian is confusing in itself. Some of the confusion thoughts center on their being and why they were born the way they are. Most likely questions that will crop up a lesbian’s mind are, “Why on earth I was born this way”, “Why am I attracted to women instead of men?” and “What is it in me that made me a lesbian?” These are questions that perhaps science still has to uncover.
Lesbians only love women
A lesbian will definitely prefer to be with another woman rather than with a man. It is a feeling that is not understandable even to a lesbian’s standpoint. It is a feeling inside her that is wanting to be with another woman rather than with a man. It is that craving that drives her to be with another woman. The craving can be in the form of strong physical attraction towards another woman. If the woman appears to be very attractive, the lesbian will most likely be drawn towards her. While intelligence and kindness are added attractions, physical appearance is a strong factor that are most sought after by lesbians. Sometimes the scent of a woman can also attract a lesbian.
Lesbians are like men
Indeed, like men, lesbians who will find beautiful women around the block will more likely be crazy about her. Like men, lesbians will try to befriend the woman until she gets to know the person really well.
What makes a lesbian, a lesbian?
But, what really makes a lesbian a lesbian? This question is hard to answer unless you are a lesbian yourself. If you have experienced falling in love with another woman then and only then will you ever know what makes a lesbian a lesbian. That being said, a lesbian is considerably human with a heart of her own. While it is confusing as to why lesbians fall for a woman, it is likewise confusing why lesbians are made lesbians.
The heart of a lesbian is no different from other human being’s heart. However, a lesbian’s heart is unique in itself as it can only afford to love a woman.
Perhaps it is right to say that a woman who is currently in love and is in a relationship with a lesbian is lucky as only a lesbian knows what a woman wants. A woman who says otherwise has yet to find the right lesbian as lesbian relationships are just like a man-woman relationship.
So, what would you do if a lesbian likes you? Run and hide? If you are a woman and you have found one true love in a lesbian, congratulations!
Tags: bi-sexual woman, Lesbian Relationship, lesbian romance
When you are young, what most girls want is attention. Doesn’t really matter who, just any attention, to know they are pretty etc. This adds up on the confusion when you don’t really know what your sexual orientation is. But I can say this; if you really are lesbian, then there will always be a certain “wrongness” tugging at you whenever you turn to a guy, you can tolerate them but never be truly happy until you find a woman’s arms.
I believe many women who are really lesbians live in a relationship with men – they may even have children – but there comes a point when that yearning and longing after something else can no longer be ignored, when you truly fall in love and realise that you never loved the man you were living with. There is no such thing as “turning lesbian”. If you’re lesbian you always were.
I don’t really believe in bi-sexuality, I believe in young people experimenting and seeking attention, but once you mature you usually find yourself on one side or another. Society doesn’t really help us out here, but the most important thing for a young lesbian girl is this lesson: never, ever, ever go into a relationship with a guy just because you feel lonely or want attention. It won’t last. It will only turn to misery and the day you meet the woman you fall head over heels for you’ll have a very complicated path out of the previous relationship before you. From my experience a guy will never get over the fact that he got dumped in favor of a woman.
Lastly I want to give all you lesbians out there a big, big, hug and cheers for those being brave enough to be open about what they feel. And for those who found true love (as I did) I wish you a long, happy life together!
after lovingand caring for a man why does a straight woman turn gay?
@ellyn — Good question. Perhaps you were already gay then. You just did not realize it until after having a loving and caring relationship with a man. The truth of the matter is that there are numerous straight married women who later realize they prefer to be with women instead of men. These are women who are happy with their marriages yet find themselves longing for something more that they cannot find in their men.
This seems to be the trend today women falling in love with other women.I do not understand it. Very disgusting if you ask me. These women must have had very abusive relationships with the men that they once lived with. I never realized that there are so many lesbians out there now than ever before. I consider myself a good looking straight man and now I know why it is very difficult meeting straight women today. I hate going to these clubs on the weekends trying to meet a nice woman but they are very nasty and play games and I am not into that. By the way did I say nice? Where are the straight decent women today for men like us that are trying to meet them? If I could meet the right one it would be like winning the lottery for me.
@ franko – Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You were right when you said that these women have had very abusive relationships with the men that they once lived with. These women would not fall for anyone, not only to a lesbian, if they feel the love they need from their men. Women who have had abusive relationships with men are emotionally vulnerable. They could easily fall for lesbians who are more caring and more attentive to their needs and are not abusive. However, like men there are also abusive lesbians — it is a case to case basis. Women who are showered with love, care and devotion by their men can’t betray their men.
There are still decent straight women out there. You just have to keep on looking. Why not try looking online if you can’t meet someone offline? Good luck!
I have met a woman recently but I just see her once a week. She has a lot of financial problems. She always asks me for money to borrow but i tell her no. I just came out of a relationship with my second wife that caused me a lot of money to lose so now I will be very careful who I date. I do like the woman, but she has a lot of problems. I have to be careful that she is not using me for money. I always seem to attract the women that are worse off than me. why I do not know I am in my mid-fifties and for me meeting a real good honest woman is very difficult for me. But like I said before there are so many more lesbians out there today than ever before which kind of adds to the problem of meeting straight good women today.To me if I had a choice of being rich or finding the right woman to be with I rather meet a woman who will be right for me instead of the money because money will not cure loneliness.Finding the right woman for me would make me very happy knowing I could spend the rest of my life with her which is more important today.
@Franko – Thanks for sharing. While it feels so good to love and be loved, it is better to have nothing at all if you foresee problems about money later on. It would be wise judgment to stay out of women who have a lot of financial problems. However, not all women are after money too. There are those who are lonesome and in need of love too, financially stable, but yet can’t seem to find the right guy. Yes, you are right that there are more lesbian now than ever before, but majority of the women are still very straight and are not into the lesbian thing. You just have to keep on looking. It takes pain to win a game.
thanks for the advice. you were very helpful.
you’re welcome.
Hello, I am a Guy I have a Lesbian Friend. I’ve known her since I was 4 and I am 24 years old now so 20 years, being best friends like hanging out 6 years. I fell in love with her than we lost touch, but now we are back to being very close now. At the beginning whenever I seemed to get close she would push me away, but now she feels more comfortable. Now she is Fully a Lesbian, but I still Love her dearly and she feels like God can do a change in her, but we are patient about that. My point I guess is how do I take this. She was honest and told me she has started to feel a certain way for me. She can’t describe it like she does not know if its feelings or what. It may be, but it sounds like it. What would you say?
@ Alvin – Thanks for stopping by and sharing your thoughts. A woman is just a woman and can fall in love with a man. Even if she considers herself a lesbian, chances are she can fall in love with a man if that man can shower her all the attention she needs and wants. That being said, since you were both childhood friends it is more likely she can fall in love with you. Women prefer to be with a guy she knows too well rather than with a complete stranger. Just take it easy and treat her like a princess and you will surely win her heart. Good luck!
@Alvin,
There is a word for women that love women and men. BISEXUAL and sometimes just BI-curious. Many seem to be under the false assumption that there are only straight people and gay people. There are men and women who can love both sexes. It doesn’t matter if she had never been in a relationship with a man, a bisexual will NEVER be a lesbian or a heterosexual. Your friend is simply a bisexual that has only dated women. Please do some studying so that you can better understand the difference between gay and bisexual. They are not the same.