Lesbian Affair With A Married Woman
There are lesbians who have had experience having a relationship with a married woman. While this may not sound right anymore, there are those who are willing to fight for their feelings. They will try to hide the relationship or pretend to be just friends.
So, why are these married women attracted to lesbians anyway? It can come to only one thing. Only a woman knows what a woman wants.
Think that this kind of relationship will last? You are wrong. Majority of lesbian relationships with married women are short lived. Hardly can you find a lesbian relationship with a married woman survive a long way. If there is, then it’s one in a million.
The reason? First and foremost is that, if given a choice, the married woman will definitely choose family before lesbian affair. She will, of course, protect her integrity first and that of her family, especially if there are children involved. It is all the more true if the community is small and everybody knows everybody. News of the affair can spread so easily and end up the affair so quickly.
If you or someone you know is into this kind of mess, here is one tip to share. Back off! It is better to be hurt than feel sorry. Back off while still in the early stage of the relationship. Be aware that the woman is married and that you don’t have the right to spoil or ruin it. If you let the feelings go a long way, you might have a hard time finding yourself again.
@Mindy — You gotta pick one, but choose wisely. Meaning choose the one closest to your heart. Having a relationship takes chemistry. When there is no spark at all, you are just like playing a fire. It’s a major decision you have to make, but keep in mind do what is right for you and the woman you really love. Ask yourself…who is right for me? If you can’t handle one relationship, why settle for two. Guess that is too much for you to take care of.
my situation: i am dating a married woman. we have been together for over 9 months now. her husband has known about our relationship the entire time, encouraging her to explore her sexuality with another woman. he never expected us (all 3) to be together sexually. just an understanding guy. over the course of time – my girlfriend has come out saying that she is gay. her and her husband no longer have sex, but they still live together. they have 2 kids and since they are really good friends – they insist on ‘doing what’s right for their kids’ – which means keeping her (my girlfriend) in the home so that she can take care of the kids while he is at work. they both insist that they are still living together, and married, for the sake of the kids… but i feel like he is trying to keep her anyway he can – even if it means that they are both miserable. my girlfriend tells me that she would leave him in a heartbeat if they didn’t have kids. they’ve asked me to move in w them – but i feel like this is me compromising my real needs… i love the kids and realize this is a difficult situation… how long should i wait to see if she will move out of the house? she says she would move in with me, but i don’t think i am ready for that – because i just went through an ugly divorce this past year (i was married to a woman, very abusive relationship) – im having trust issues. love my girlfriend deeply. even like her husband. what do i do?
@ heartbroke – While it is nice to love and be loved, choose wisely. Being in a relationship with a married woman is not that simple — you will always be at the losing end. Experience would tell you that it is not worth another risk. It is a fact of life that the trust of a married woman will always be to her husband and kids. While there are always an exception, the fact is that the loyalty of these married women will always be to her family especially if there are kids involved.
Be on the safe side always. Go for single women. With or without kids is fine. Since you are not ready to take this married woman into your home, why not stay away from her for now? Check your heart meter. Is she worth another risk after an ugly divorce? If not, move on… there are single and available women out there who are looking for serious relationship with a very responsible person. Just look around…but don’t jump into any lesbian relationship right away if you are not emotionally prepared. Hope this helps…Good luck!
@ heartbroke stop the bullshit and just end this relationship because it isn’t a REAL RELATIONSHIP.
If a bisexual woman loves a man and a woman, she will always pick the man. Society is set up in a manner that rewards heterosexual relationships (allowing marriage, less insurance premiums,etc) while stigmatizing lesbian and gay relationships. She’ll always picks safety and ,even in 2011, it’s still not safe to be a lesbian in most towns.