Comments on: Signs of Lesbian Attraction or Flirting http://www.y-woo.com/signs-of-lesbian-attraction-or-flirting/ Simple solutions for complex lesbian problems Sat, 04 Feb 2012 20:14:44 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Maddy http://www.y-woo.com/signs-of-lesbian-attraction-or-flirting/comment-page-1/#comment-1036 Maddy Sat, 04 Feb 2012 04:40:20 +0000 http://www.y-woo.com/?p=275#comment-1036 So, there's this girl at work. She is gorgeous and has the most beautiful eyes. Anyway, I like her a lot. We flirt a lot when we're at work. I would like to know if she likes me as more than just a flirting partner at work. She doesn't usually go out of her way to hang out with just me, but when we are out with other people, she'll make a lot of physical contact with me. She'll hold my hand, touch/caress my leg. She won't hold a conversation with me for long over text and the few times we have hung out alone, she doesn't say much. I like to believe she may be shy but i'm not 100% sure. She'll text me and say she misses me, she'll call me beautiful and sexy, but other times she'll act cold and uninterested. It's driving me insane! Should I consider this just a flirting thing that will never get past that or keep hopes she'll eventually open up? I'm scared to make any moves because the last time I thought a girl was digging me, i was totally wrong and made a complete fool of myself :( So, there’s this girl at work. She is gorgeous and has the most beautiful eyes. Anyway, I like her a lot. We flirt a lot when we’re at work. I would like to know if she likes me as more than just a flirting partner at work.

She doesn’t usually go out of her way to hang out with just me, but when we are out with other people, she’ll make a lot of physical contact with me. She’ll hold my hand, touch/caress my leg. She won’t hold a conversation with me for long over text and the few times we have hung out alone, she doesn’t say much. I like to believe she may be shy but i’m not 100% sure. She’ll text me and say she misses me, she’ll call me beautiful and sexy, but other times she’ll act cold and uninterested. It’s driving me insane!

Should I consider this just a flirting thing that will never get past that or keep hopes she’ll eventually open up? I’m scared to make any moves because the last time I thought a girl was digging me, i was totally wrong and made a complete fool of myself :(

]]> By: Josephine http://www.y-woo.com/signs-of-lesbian-attraction-or-flirting/comment-page-1/#comment-1034 Josephine Thu, 02 Feb 2012 02:07:00 +0000 http://www.y-woo.com/?p=275#comment-1034 thanks but no thanks thanks but no thanks

]]> By: Josephine http://www.y-woo.com/signs-of-lesbian-attraction-or-flirting/comment-page-1/#comment-1030 Josephine Thu, 26 Jan 2012 20:04:40 +0000 http://www.y-woo.com/?p=275#comment-1030 Need BIG HELP. SITUATION. Is my best friend of twenty plus years, a married woman with two kids hitting on me? She is married, two grown kids in a unhappy marriage. I am married, one toddler child in an unhappy marriage. We have been friends for over twenty years. She is a gorgeous fembot fifteen years my senior. I am a pretty latin tomboy fembot. My confusion. She invites me to her home or places with my child happily ending the sentance with "It will be great. We can watch movies and relax my husband won't be home." When asked "Do you have a person/s in your life you are intimate with? Does not judge you? She said to me your name is the first and only while crying to me. I am crazy about her and would never harm her or our friendship. May be I am over thinking this. HELP!! any suggestions would be highly appreciated. Need BIG HELP.

SITUATION.
Is my best friend of twenty plus years, a married woman with two kids hitting on me?

She is married, two grown kids in a unhappy marriage.
I am married, one toddler child in an unhappy marriage.

We have been friends for over twenty years.
She is a gorgeous fembot fifteen years my senior.

I am a pretty latin tomboy fembot.

My confusion.
She invites me to her home or places with my child happily ending the sentance with “It will be great. We can watch movies and relax my husband won’t be home.”

When asked “Do you have a person/s in your life you are intimate with? Does not judge you? She said to me your name is the first and only while crying to me.

I am crazy about her and would never harm her or our friendship.

May be I am over thinking this.

HELP!! any suggestions would be highly appreciated.

]]> By: jandi http://www.y-woo.com/signs-of-lesbian-attraction-or-flirting/comment-page-1/#comment-1020 jandi Tue, 10 Jan 2012 02:25:15 +0000 http://www.y-woo.com/?p=275#comment-1020 @SubtleBeauty - Thanks for sharing your story. The girl likes you, definitely. But, don't be too excited. Liking has different meaning. She may just like you as a friend or she may like you as being you. That being said, it is too early to tell so suggests to get to know her better. Don't rush. Take your time and in time you will have an answer to your question. Don't be confused. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you stare or study a person's face if you are not interested? Would you sit beside a complete stranger if you are not interested in that person? Would you give your sweetest smile to someone you are not interested at all? Good luck! @SubtleBeauty – Thanks for sharing your story. The girl likes you, definitely. But, don’t be too excited. Liking has different meaning. She may just like you as a friend or she may like you as being you. That being said, it is too early to tell so suggests to get to know her better. Don’t rush. Take your time and in time you will have an answer to your question.

Don’t be confused. Put yourself in her shoes. Would you stare or study a person’s face if you are not interested? Would you sit beside a complete stranger if you are not interested in that person? Would you give your sweetest smile to someone you are not interested at all? Good luck!

]]> By: SubtleBeauty http://www.y-woo.com/signs-of-lesbian-attraction-or-flirting/comment-page-1/#comment-1019 SubtleBeauty Fri, 06 Jan 2012 16:47:38 +0000 http://www.y-woo.com/?p=275#comment-1019 Hey! I'm very confused at this moment. Okay I am a lesbian and I just started going to this lgbtq community center. I met this girl that works there and she is also a lesbian. She's only a few years older than me and I'm sorta attracted to her but I'm confused if she feels the same about me. Some of the things I notice that she'll do makes me wonder if she does. I'll give you a few examples: Okay when I first went to the meeting it was only a few people there. It was three gay guys and three lesbians including me and her. I was sitting in a seat at the table and when she came in she sat beside me. Not exactly beside me but like at the head of the table, and through out the entire meeting I kept feeling her eyes on me. But I just chalked it up to me being new and her not knowing me so well because two of the gay guys seemed infatuated with me too lol. After the meeting I tried to get more information about the program from her but kept being interrupted by two rude people. One of them was a girl who hit me. Well she asked my name and called me a cutie and freaked me out. Since the program was over it was just the four of us. Don't know why the other two stuck around they were just there. I went back to asking her questions and one of the rude people made a comment about how she was flirting with the youth (she meaning the girl that worked there and the youth being me but I'm actually 20) we both laughed at the comment and continued on but I just got fed up and told her I'll see her tomorrow. She seemed a little disappointed but said ok you seem a little tired and I replied back saying that I was disturbed. But I wasn't talking about her just the other two people and I don't know if she thought I was talking about her. The next time I saw her was after Christmas when we had a meeting. Just a few people came. Had a good time and whatever got to know each other a little. During this one activity it was serious topic we discussed letting them know a little about me. And we went around the room saying what two things we looked for in a mate and I said space and communication. And when it got to her she said openness and communication but we couldn't say what someone else said so I think she said honesty. And that's when my curiosity was peeked because she said she wanted someone who was open and honest. I was very open and honest with what I said hell that entire day I was very open. Also throughout the entire day she kept trying to get me to eat but I told her I wasn't hungry but it seemed like she wanted to go out of her way to make me eat. But I don't know if she was being nice or what. The next activity we had was like yoga. First time doing it but I had no problems with it while everyone looked they were in pain and couldn't keep their balance. So afterwards she brought it up and said I was very flexible and asked if I played sports. I told her when I was younger but I had always been flexible. And it seem like she was asking questions to get to know me better which was cool. But then when I go to leave with another girl that was with her she asked us for a hug. Again my curiosity was peeked this was like my third time seeing her but this was her first time asking for a hug. I had no problem with it but it was kind of strange. The very next time I saw her she smiled at me which she did every time she saw me and sat next to me. I mean there was a seat she could've sat in but she said next to me. And through out the day she kept glancing at me and trying to include into some of the conversations the other members were having. And what peeked my curiosity again was when she had asked a question that I thought was for everyone in general she looked at me for a long time. Although I wasn't looking at her and pretended as if I didn't hear her at all and kept my focus on the ground. But out of the corner of my eye I saw her almost like studying my face. Okay so those are things that peeked my curiosity but these are the things that confuse me. Before I even started going to the meetings I was texting her about the program and she said it was okay for me to text her and ask her questions. But after our first meeting and when I texted her Merry Christmas I got no response. But when there was a meeting she texted me and when I replied she responded back. After the yoga thing and the hug around New Years I wished her a happy New Years she didn't respond but after a few days asked if I was coming to the meeting. I don't know if she's just being nice and friendly and I'm just feeding way too much into it or if she does like me she doesn't want to jeopardize her job by asking me out. So I need help with whether I should let it go or pursue her. But I honestly get the feeling that she likes me more than as a friend. Hey! I’m very confused at this moment. Okay I am a lesbian and I just started going to this lgbtq community center. I met this girl that works there and she is also a lesbian. She’s only a few years older than me and I’m sorta attracted to her but I’m confused if she feels the same about me. Some of the things I notice that she’ll do makes me wonder if she does. I’ll give you a few examples: Okay when I first went to the meeting it was only a few people there. It was three gay guys and three lesbians including me and her. I was sitting in a seat at the table and when she came in she sat beside me. Not exactly beside me but like at the head of the table, and through out the entire meeting I kept feeling her eyes on me. But I just chalked it up to me being new and her not knowing me so well because two of the gay guys seemed infatuated with me too lol. After the meeting I tried to get more information about the program from her but kept being interrupted by two rude people. One of them was a girl who hit me. Well she asked my name and called me a cutie and freaked me out. Since the program was over it was just the four of us. Don’t know why the other two stuck around they were just there. I went back to asking her questions and one of the rude people made a comment about how she was flirting with the youth (she meaning the girl that worked there and the youth being me but I’m actually 20) we both laughed at the comment and continued on but I just got fed up and told her I’ll see her tomorrow. She seemed a little disappointed but said ok you seem a little tired and I replied back saying that I was disturbed. But I wasn’t talking about her just the other two people and I don’t know if she thought I was talking about her. The next time I saw her was after Christmas when we had a meeting. Just a few people came. Had a good time and whatever got to know each other a little. During this one activity it was serious topic we discussed letting them know a little about me. And we went around the room saying what two things we looked for in a mate and I said space and communication. And when it got to her she said openness and communication but we couldn’t say what someone else said so I think she said honesty. And that’s when my curiosity was peeked because she said she wanted someone who was open and honest. I was very open and honest with what I said hell that entire day I was very open. Also throughout the entire day she kept trying to get me to eat but I told her I wasn’t hungry but it seemed like she wanted to go out of her way to make me eat. But I don’t know if she was being nice or what. The next activity we had was like yoga. First time doing it but I had no problems with it while everyone looked they were in pain and couldn’t keep their balance. So afterwards she brought it up and said I was very flexible and asked if I played sports. I told her when I was younger but I had always been flexible. And it seem like she was asking questions to get to know me better which was cool. But then when I go to leave with another girl that was with her she asked us for a hug. Again my curiosity was peeked this was like my third time seeing her but this was her first time asking for a hug. I had no problem with it but it was kind of strange. The very next time I saw her she smiled at me which she did every time she saw me and sat next to me. I mean there was a seat she could’ve sat in but she said next to me. And through out the day she kept glancing at me and trying to include into some of the conversations the other members were having. And what peeked my curiosity again was when she had asked a question that I thought was for everyone in general she looked at me for a long time. Although I wasn’t looking at her and pretended as if I didn’t hear her at all and kept my focus on the ground. But out of the corner of my eye I saw her almost like studying my face. Okay so those are things that peeked my curiosity but these are the things that confuse me. Before I even started going to the meetings I was texting her about the program and she said it was okay for me to text her and ask her questions. But after our first meeting and when I texted her Merry Christmas I got no response. But when there was a meeting she texted me and when I replied she responded back. After the yoga thing and the hug around New Years I wished her a happy New Years she didn’t respond but after a few days asked if I was coming to the meeting. I don’t know if she’s just being nice and friendly and I’m just feeding way too much into it or if she does like me she doesn’t want to jeopardize her job by asking me out. So I need help with whether I should let it go or pursue her. But I honestly get the feeling that she likes me more than as a friend.

]]> By: jandi http://www.y-woo.com/signs-of-lesbian-attraction-or-flirting/comment-page-1/#comment-842 jandi Tue, 30 Aug 2011 16:36:29 +0000 http://www.y-woo.com/?p=275#comment-842 @ whit - Thanks for sharing your story. Based on what you wrote, it is obvious she likes you. Girls are hard to understand sometimes. Analyze every situation and you will know what it means. Instances like telling the world via Facebook that she loves someone is something to think about. A girl on her right mind would not state things like that in public when she doesn't mean anything at all. A girl who likes someone will not say upfront she likes someone. She will do it in her own special way and it is up to you to catch every hint of it. Good luck! @ whit – Thanks for sharing your story. Based on what you wrote, it is obvious she likes you. Girls are hard to understand sometimes. Analyze every situation and you will know what it means. Instances like telling the world via Facebook that she loves someone is something to think about. A girl on her right mind would not state things like that in public when she doesn’t mean anything at all. A girl who likes someone will not say upfront she likes someone. She will do it in her own special way and it is up to you to catch every hint of it. Good luck!

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