Tell-tale signs you both have a secret lesbian attraction
Have you ever been strongly attracted to a woman? Chances are you are a lesbian. But, how do you know exactly if the woman you are strongly attracted to is also attracted to you?
Most lesbians will admit there is no easy answer.
Unless the woman you are strongly attracted to will boldly show signs that she is also interested in you, then there is no way you can tell that she also likes you.
A lesbian experience
I have my share of story to share.
When I was in Grade school, I was strongly attracted to a girl in my class. We became friends that there are times I end up sending her to her house after school. It is my own special way of showing to the girl that I really care about her. We became really close, but she never showed any indication that she is also attracted to me. I was however sure she knows that I am attracted to her, which is pretty obvious from my actions, but I cannot really tell if she is also attracted to me. She never showed any sign at all. Until one day, she visited me at my house, which is very surprising. Then we lost touch after graduation.
That was 30 plus years ago.
A couple of months back, I received a very surprising email from a name I am not familiar with (she used an anonymous name in her email address). What intrigued me was the way the email was composed. It specifically states, “Why are you not responding to my email? Are you afraid of your wife?” What struck my core was the use of the words “afraid of my wife.” And so I emailed back and asked who she was. A day after, a response came in, stating that she was my former grade school classmate. Then we started chatting online and over the phone. Thanks to new technologies that really helped our communication much easier.
When Feelings Still Remains
After more than 30 years, we are communicating again. I can only say that the girl that I was strongly attracted to in grade school came back into my life. She shared her life’s experiences for the years that we lost touch of each other and I shared mine. We chatted and finally realized how much we missed each other.
The girl that I was strongly attracted to in grade school is also attracted to me. She confessed she was also attracted to me when we were in grade school and that she longed for my kiss even then at such a very young age. She shared she was confused back then why she felt that way towards me. A feeling, she said, she cannot explain. She added that, unlike other girls, she will never really show any sign of attraction to a person even if she is very desperate to have her. She further said that, at times, she wanted to show some sign she liked me, but that she cannot do or is afraid and scared to do.
Each Girl is Different
While some girls will keep their feelings to themselves, others choose to be bold about it. The girl that I really like way back then chose to keep quiet and kept her feelings towards me for over 30 years.
Tell-tale signs you both have a secret lesbian attraction
1. When you both have a strange look at each other in the eye. Be aware that it is not normal anymore when she kept looking at you and you kept looking at her.
2. When you both strangely care for each other. It is something when the caring is way above your expectation.
3. When you both strangely miss each other. It is very strange when a woman always kept saying “I miss you” when she knows she is not your best friend.
Tags: lesbian attraction, lesbian feelings, Lesbian Love, signs of lesbian attraction
Tell her how you love Helen DeGeneres in everything she says does etc.. When you share love for someone known through her overt sexual attraction to same sex…obviously you give away a clue in addition to some other signs such as prolonged look in the eyes ending with a smile..I don’t believe it could be mistaken…and then it leaves space for the other to respond either engage into details of likes and other things related to it or to change conversation perhaps not make further comment to not mislead you..
Really depends on what sort of connection is pre-established if any..
Hmm…strange, all of those 3 signs strongly apply in my case…heh,so I guess I might be right after all…damn it.
Oi,
I have strong lesbian attraction for a married woman. This is horrible.
I really wish I could stop crushing on her, but unlike most situations, I have to deal with her for the next 3 months. I wish, I soooo totally wish
she was into me. But I realize, that being friends with her is so much more fulfilling than sleeping with her. I realize that I can love her from a distance, that’s what makes it all worth it. I also realize that being a lesbian, does not necessarily mean you have to sleep with a girl.
I’ve been in love with my sister in law for the past 10 years , I have spent many periods of time thinking about her , many minutes of the day thinking of nothing but her ! I can’t say for sure she feels the same about me and for a while every so often I try to get on with life without thinking about being with her . We live miles spart and see each other maybe once or twice a year . It sounds crazy doesn’t it . I’ve been with women before , I’m as good as married and have two kids (with her brother) but the thing is I know she is unhappy in her relationships (no kids) and ad much as I love my life I stopped being in love with my kids dad years ago .. It’s no ones fault , he is 16 years older than me she is his half sister and about my age . After 12 years together I am now the age he was when we got together !!! I love him but not sexually. But OMG I love her so much, I’ve told her by text and asked her to tell me she doesn’t feel anything but she never does that, she just goes quiet . And I know that she feels something but I also think she will hide it forever … And I want to love her so so much . I also think my husband would accept us together strange as that may seem. Has engine else had that electric feeling from the tiniest touch , had their heart thump out of their chest do physically it feels like everyone in a 5mile radius could hear it ? Ive never ever felt these things for anyone else ever .
@AJ – thanks for dropping by to share your story. Think a million times before you let your heart out to this sister-in-law of yours. Long distance love relationship is hard to get by and besides she is your sister in law. In time you’ll forget about how you feel for her by focusing your attention on someone else. It may be hard to shift feelings but there is a way if there is a will. However, if you really can’t get your life going without this woman then go for it but weigh the consequences first before diving into the situation. What would people say? Your family? Good luck!
Jandi, Hi.
Thank you for your reply I’ve searched high and low for a page that would give me an answer over the years and here you are :0) … I’ve let my heart out many times I’m afraid to say and she still loves (I know this because she has never broken my relationship up with her brother and when we do see each other rarely her eyes sink into mine and her voice trembles, the same as mine) We do not communicate ever as there never is time. If we do communicate via text it is me who starts it off again and she plays along for a while till I try and get her to admit feelings ! I leave it go for months at a time , years sometimes !!! I did think I might look for someone else to fill the gap but I know I would never find it, the feeling is too strong and not only would I be cheating on my husband, her brother, but I’d feel I’d be cheating on my love for her and I really can’t do that. I’m a faithful kind of girl as it goes ! Of course I want to make love to her slowly, I’d like to take a holiday with her so I can just being with her , walk with her, hold her hand, kiss her, laugh and joke with her ~ all the things that when I close my eyes I feel complete in the thought of her presence as if she is physically there with me. I got it bad don’t I LoL But I am also reasonable and responsible and I care for all the family but that is also why I want her so badly , because I think I can make her happy if only she would let me. It would be a private thing between her and me, and my husband would know in time and if she would let herself go so we could try and see if it was a real thing or not and we found it didn’t work out then I can’t see why we couldn’t still be as we are now since we are all adults who love each other anyway.