If you are, are you the type of lesbian who is outgoing? Or someone who likes to be alone.

If you are outgoing then perhaps you have a bunch of loyal friends around you who can help you whenever help is needed. But, what if you happen to be an introvert type of lesbian who likes to be alone? When help is needed, no one is there to turn to.

That’s why a support group is important.

If you are a lesbian, being alone in your inner struggle to find peace for who you are can give your life some misery.

Here are the main reasons why your lesbian life can be miserable:

1. You want to come out as a lesbian, but is afraid to do so for fear of being rejected by family and friends.

2. You want to talk to someone who will understand you, but nobody is there to listen to you.

3. You want to get advise and suggestions on how to court the girl of your dreams, but there is nobody who can help you out.

4. You want to buy stuff that is useful to you, but you are afraid to do so because your family or friends may not like it.

5. And the things you like doing you cannot do because you are afraid of being caught as a lesbian.

The above are just some of the frustrating  instances in the life of lesbian without any lesbian support group. While some lesbians are tough and can live without it, others cannot.

Do yourself a big favor! If you are one of those that cannot do without, here are the things that you can do to have a life as a lesbian:

1. Seek out help from like-minded friends. If you are a lesbian who happens to have gay and lesbian friends, seek help from them. For sure, they will understand where you are coming from.

2. There are people who are gay/lesbian friendly. Talk to them if you find people who are gay friendly among your circle of friends.

3. There are many lesbian support groups you can seek help from. In the United States, lesbian support groups are present in almost every state around the country.

If all of the above sounds far reaching to you then there is no way for you to live life happily as a lesbian, but to go after what you think and feel is best for you.

There are many lesbians out whose hearts are breaking because they are afraid of coming out in the open and have no way of sharing their sufferings. If they do share, people don’t seem to care or understand what they’ve been going through. The only way to move on and be happy with life is to be who you are. In other words, acceptance is the key to a lesbian’s life happiness.

Yes, it can be fun, exciting and flattering if you, as a woman, is able to attract both persons of the same and opposite sex. But, what if you are already married? Now, that’s a disadvantage.

While a woman who is single may find it enjoyable to be with another woman, it could turn a family life apart in the case of a married woman. A single woman, unlike married women, can choose to have a lesbian affair. She may be free to do so as she has no commitment with anyone. And, unlike single women, a married woman’s emotional freedom is tied to the marriage vows. While there are husbands who openly accept their wives having a lesbian affair, still others hate to hear and see their wives having a lesbian affair. The freedom to have an affair for a married woman is no longer present. And if she choose to do so, there are great repercussions she has to face.

If you are one of the many married women who cannot survive without keeping the lesbian affair, here are some helpful tips you can take:

1. Be honest with your husband. Talk to your husband openly about the whole situation. This can be a great relief on your part if you are able to release the guilt that you’ve been holding up inside. Don’t hide it, instead talk it out. You need to lift that heavy burden that you’ve been carrying all along with you all this while. Expect the discussion to be dirty but don’t forget to keep your core. Explain to the best of your ability as to why you are feeling that way. It maybe that you found out later in your marriage life that you are a lesbian or you are just confused or that you already knew that you are a bi-sexual woman before you married your husband.

2. Be true to yourself. Being honest with yourself can help you find your way. What is it in life that do you really want? What makes you happy? These are common questions that may help you decide in life. Will it make you happy and life more fulfilling if you are beside your lesbian lover?

3. Follow your heart. Love is like a poison. It sometimes is uncontrollable. If you follow the dictates of your heart will it make you happy? Then go for it. In life, it is just a matter of choice and whatever choice you make, make sure you’ll have no regrets.

If you are a woman who has a lesbian affair, feels guilty about it and want to make things straight, here are some helpful tips:

1. Back off. Disconnect yourself from a possible lesbian affair. Think about why you married your husband in the first place. Why did you? Avoid every possible connection with the lesbian. The lesbian affair can hit hard on you if you let your emotion in. It can be fun and exciting at first, but once emotion runs deep it can make things complicated. This can lead you to getting more confused about yourself and how to go about a lesbian affair while you’re married. Erase all contact information or gifts you may have received from the lesbian. Getting rid of these will help you move on.

2. Pray. Prayer is the best weapon to fight a war against emotion. Pray, it works! It never fails!

3. Family first. Spend more time with your family. Tending to your family’s affair is more of an obligation than a responsibility.

“Interesting, I’m a married man that accidentally discovered my wife’s long term lesbian affair. I came home a day early from a business trip, unannounced.

A little background statement so the scene will be clearer. We had discussed over several years of including another woman in a threeway. I know the most popular male fantasy.

We have been married for almost 15 years and together including early stages of dating for 20. Have two kids both are teens. Have what I’d call a good marriage. Wife has a super high sex drive so the sex never dropped off. Afterwards, learning from her what she was after from each was different so her being bi, she had meeting each of our (her lover’s, both husband and Lesbian lover) needs. She got most of the foreplay and soft love from her and she was primed and ready for the more aggressive straight sex we had, and yes often in the same day.

Well, back to the afternoon when I walked (slipped) in, with our anniversary coming up I just assumed that this was getting to know one another sex to make the 3way better or less awkward. So I strip down and joined in, the lover knowing who I was and afraid of both losing all contact with the wife and the fallout for the wife if she objected never objected, she herself admitted that she had had somewhat good relations with men in the past, was how she allowed herself to just go with it. Wasn’t until in the aftermath that their 3/4 confession was revealed. I say 3/4 confession as there is still something they both held back, like exactly how long for one. You know us guys, we want to know all the who, what where, when, why, and how often. Most was revealed but there were a few questions they talked around, ignored or refused to answer.

As for the marriage and her other life, well we are still married and the woman now lives with us. They have most of their sex late at night or during the day while the kids are at school or sound asleep. The wife is in love with us both and since neither I or her girlfriend force her to make a choice she gets her cake and eats as well. Works for me now that she doesn’t have to hide anything from me she is even freer in bed and even more horny if possible. I have installed hidden spy cams in their room with their knowledge. The concession they allowed for my being understanding. It has improved my foreplay skills, but she usually is in a rush for the other, says she gets all of that that she needs from her gf. I still make them get together with me for the occasional 3way.

My only two problems is one still their refusal to come 100% clean and her reluctance to trust me enough not tell me she was bi early on in our relationship since her having sex with girls/women goes back to her high school days. Well one more small one, is believe it or not cuddling, now she doesn’t have to hide her woman gets most of that affection.

My question, is how to not only get the wife but her lover to both open up more to being hugged by me and letting it linger, you know some affection I feel should be mandatory? You know, we men get a bad rap in that we don’t ever want to snuggle without it leading to sex, but I suspect they just assume I’m after sex, not true sometimes I’m tired or have had a bad day or just want to say thanks for what you each do, type stuff. I mean the wife is outwardly happier than I’ve ever seen her, little to no stress. The extra income her lover brings in means we only know have monthly recurring stuff, which means I now don’t have to work so much o.t. and accept any but mandated out of town travel. You know we guys aren’t all jerks all the time, lol. Guess, I just don’t want to sound petty or like I’m overly jealous, while getting it across that I one shouldn’t have to either ask or demand a hug and that it should linger a little. You know I get this feeling at times like while the wife loves me she is in love with her. I feel a little guilty for bitching since most would say I’m getting laid more than most husbands, but we all know deep down it is much more than that. Hope I made myself clear as I’m a math major type and this writing stuff isn’t something I have to do often. Thanks”.

Now, the question that comes to mind is:  Should a wife and her lesbian lover be more open to the husband in terms of affection?

The Lesbian Affection

Lesbian affection towards men and women are completely different. Being a lesbian, she can be more affectionate with a woman rather than with a man. If the wife is a lesbian (bi-sexual), then her affection towards her lesbian lover can be more intimate than towards her husband. Remember, there are girls stuff that only girls know and talk about. Just like there are guys stuff that only guys know and talk about that they want to keep to themselves. In other words, while the lesbian wife can be intimate to the husband, there is a tendency that she can be more intimate when she is with her lesbian lover. This brings us to the statement that “only a woman knows what a woman wants.”

Most Men Are Envious

A man is a man and he will prove that to himself by not letting anyone take her wife away from his bed. While this may be true, some men are open to having another woman in the husband and wife relationship. Stories are very common of threeway or threesome. Some men loved it while others call it “disgusting.”

There are also men who become envious of the wife’s lesbian relationship but not jealous or jealous but not envious. Take the case of a man who gets envious to his wife’s lesbian lover. He envied his wife’s lesbian lover not because his wife is very sweet to her but because he does not have that hidden talent that his wife’s lesbian lover have.

Keep the Jealousy Away

Jealousy can be quite difficult to handle. A feeling of rage will overpower and eat up the once happy husband-wife relationship. Control the rage, anger and jealousy, if there is any, and, instead, work out for a solution to have your wife’s affection back to you completely.

Any thoughts to share? You are welcome here!

So, can you hide your sexuality? It is very difficult to hide your sexuality if you are a lesbian. It’s even more difficult if you have been raised in a strict or religious family.

With the best intention of being true to ourselves, there are occasions when pressures from relatives and friends might cause you to live life as a straight person even when you know, deep down, you are gay.

Often, counselling can be of benefit, but it won’t really help if you know that you are not who you pretend to be. Your sexuality will always reveal the truth in yourself because it is part of your physical, emotional, intellectual, and social self. It affects how you think of yourself and how you relate to others, as well as how they relate to you, and it is a part of you throughout your entire life.